Well my worst fears kind of came true at court for Itty Bitty's TPR. At first bio dad didn't show up so they were going to do TPR on default but then he walked through the door 10 minutes late. After saying for the last 6 months that he would do a voluntary TPR he asked the judge for more time to make a decision. How much time does one person need, he has known for the last 2 years that this is what was going to happen, if he had wanted to be a dad he should have stepped up along time ago. Itty Bitty is 20 months old now and my sister (bio mom) decided when she found out that she was pregnant, that she would give Itty Bitty up for adoption, she told him that, but yet he waits til now to try and make a decision on what he wants to do.
There is no way that he would ever get custody of Itty Bitty, he is only going to delay the adoption process, which is what annoys me. If he doesn't do a voluntary, they will be going ahead with the involuntary and either way he will lose his rights. They are getting him for abandonment and failure to provide support, since he doesn't pay child support and he hasn't even asked to see Itty Bitty. The workers have sent him numerous papers telling him what he would have to do to even start visitation but he hasn't done anything and now he wants to pull this. UGH
They even told him that if he does a voluntary that it won't affect his other children (he has 7) in any way. But if he doesn't and it goes to trial, that the outcome could affect his children/future children. I guess I just don't see why he wants to make this so difficult.
I woke up the day of court feeling great, we were finally going to be one step closer to making Itty Bitty a legal part of our family (he always has been, but for it to be legal and all would be so much better), just to have him delay the process once again. It's just sad that after all this time my little guy still doesn't have permanancy.
Wednesday, September 29, 2010
Monday, September 20, 2010
Lots going on
I haven't updated in quite a while. Tons of stuff going on lately and I haven't found the time.
Monkey Man and Princess are doing wonderful in school, I couldn't be prouder of either one of them. Monster is doing great, gaining more and more words every day. He is now talking in some 2-3 word sentences. Itty Bitty has joined the wonderful world of the terrible twos even though he doesn't turn two for a couple more months.
They are finally going to start TPR on Itty Bitty. The date is set and now all I have to do is hope that bio dad doesn't change his mind at the last moment and drag this out any more than it has been already. A little over a week and Itty Bitty will be available for adoption. It is sad but at the same time a happy moment. Sad for the bio parents even thought bio mom wants this and bio dad could care less, it's still sad. Happy for me and Itty Bitty. We can finally become a legal family and I can officially call myself his mother (even though I already do).
Things have been so hectic lately but seem to be calming down. This week isn't as hectic as the past couple have been so I am thankful. Only have one appointment besides the regular therapy schedule, so it's good.
My sister, bio mom to Princess, Monster, and Itty Bitty has not been doing the best. From rumors that are going around she is back to drinking, talking to lots of other guys who are not her boyfriend and just basically back to the same old behavior I have seen time and time again. It's so sad to have to sit and watch her self destruct but I have tried and tried to help her and I just can't do it any more. If she was more willing to help herself but she isn't.
Things here have been good, just waiting for the court date which is a little over a week away. I have been seeing more behaviors from Princess and Monster after visits which is never a good sign. Just something to keep an eye on and report to the workers. The workers have denied my sister over nights with the kids, which is good since they are already having behaviors after being over there for only a couple of hours. I couldn't imagine what they would be like after a whole day.
All I can do is hope that she will see the light, so to speak, and start doing what is in the best interest of the children.
Monkey Man and Princess are doing wonderful in school, I couldn't be prouder of either one of them. Monster is doing great, gaining more and more words every day. He is now talking in some 2-3 word sentences. Itty Bitty has joined the wonderful world of the terrible twos even though he doesn't turn two for a couple more months.
They are finally going to start TPR on Itty Bitty. The date is set and now all I have to do is hope that bio dad doesn't change his mind at the last moment and drag this out any more than it has been already. A little over a week and Itty Bitty will be available for adoption. It is sad but at the same time a happy moment. Sad for the bio parents even thought bio mom wants this and bio dad could care less, it's still sad. Happy for me and Itty Bitty. We can finally become a legal family and I can officially call myself his mother (even though I already do).
Things have been so hectic lately but seem to be calming down. This week isn't as hectic as the past couple have been so I am thankful. Only have one appointment besides the regular therapy schedule, so it's good.
My sister, bio mom to Princess, Monster, and Itty Bitty has not been doing the best. From rumors that are going around she is back to drinking, talking to lots of other guys who are not her boyfriend and just basically back to the same old behavior I have seen time and time again. It's so sad to have to sit and watch her self destruct but I have tried and tried to help her and I just can't do it any more. If she was more willing to help herself but she isn't.
Things here have been good, just waiting for the court date which is a little over a week away. I have been seeing more behaviors from Princess and Monster after visits which is never a good sign. Just something to keep an eye on and report to the workers. The workers have denied my sister over nights with the kids, which is good since they are already having behaviors after being over there for only a couple of hours. I couldn't imagine what they would be like after a whole day.
All I can do is hope that she will see the light, so to speak, and start doing what is in the best interest of the children.
Monday, September 6, 2010
Hectic
Things have been so hectic lately. Monkey Man is now in school. We had lots of meetings before school started to straighten out his IEP. He has been doing really good so hopefully it will continue and we will have a great year. The school messed up Princess's paperwork so we are still waiting for her to start school, hopefully she will be able to start sometime this week. Monkey is doing really good, he is gaining more speech everyday. I am trying to get him on the waiver so he can start ABA therapy. Other than that Birth to 3 is starting to transition him to the school system since he turns 3 in January. Itty Bitty is doing well. He is starting the terrible twos and thinks he can do anything he pleases and is starting to throw fits when he finds out otherwise.
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