Well my worst fears kind of came true at court for Itty Bitty's TPR. At first bio dad didn't show up so they were going to do TPR on default but then he walked through the door 10 minutes late. After saying for the last 6 months that he would do a voluntary TPR he asked the judge for more time to make a decision. How much time does one person need, he has known for the last 2 years that this is what was going to happen, if he had wanted to be a dad he should have stepped up along time ago. Itty Bitty is 20 months old now and my sister (bio mom) decided when she found out that she was pregnant, that she would give Itty Bitty up for adoption, she told him that, but yet he waits til now to try and make a decision on what he wants to do.
There is no way that he would ever get custody of Itty Bitty, he is only going to delay the adoption process, which is what annoys me. If he doesn't do a voluntary, they will be going ahead with the involuntary and either way he will lose his rights. They are getting him for abandonment and failure to provide support, since he doesn't pay child support and he hasn't even asked to see Itty Bitty. The workers have sent him numerous papers telling him what he would have to do to even start visitation but he hasn't done anything and now he wants to pull this. UGH
They even told him that if he does a voluntary that it won't affect his other children (he has 7) in any way. But if he doesn't and it goes to trial, that the outcome could affect his children/future children. I guess I just don't see why he wants to make this so difficult.
I woke up the day of court feeling great, we were finally going to be one step closer to making Itty Bitty a legal part of our family (he always has been, but for it to be legal and all would be so much better), just to have him delay the process once again. It's just sad that after all this time my little guy still doesn't have permanancy.
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